Have you ever noticed how some things flow effortlessly, and other times it all seems to go wrong? We all go through tough times, and we all have setbacks in our lives, but no matter what, we can always take away something of value. We can learn more about ourselves. I emphasize learning about ourselves because we may learn about others, and about our environment, but really, all we can change or control is ourselves. When we have a setback or disappointment, it is how we handle it within ourselves that matters most. When we are judgmental towards others because they didn't behave in the way we expected them to, it is not a flaw within them, but within ourselves for expecting them to deny their own nature. I am reminded of the Aesops fable of the frog and the scorpion.
The Scorpion and the Frog
A scorpion and a frog meet on the bank of a stream and the
scorpion asks the frog to carry him across on its back. The
frog asks, "How do I know you won't sting me?" The scorpion
says, "Because if I do, I will die too."
The frog is satisfied, and they set out, but in midstream,
the scorpion stings the frog. The frog feels the onset of
paralysis and starts to sink, knowing they both will drown,
but has just enough time to gasp "Why?"
Replies the scorpion: "Its my nature..."
When we judge others we are opening ourselves to suffering and conflict, but when we find acceptance, we often will find friendships and beneficial situations. We can find a common ground, and celebrate that. There will be times when the differences are too great, but that is the time to peacefully walk away. At that point it no longer matters who is wrong or right. It is when we stop fighting to make the world fit our expectations that we learn to flow and weave our way into the things things that are 'right' for us. We also kept our own values and self-esteem intact by not letting it come under attack by those who would change us or make us doubt ourselves. We all have our own special light to shine in this world. The next time things go 'wrong' pause to reflect on whether what you were trying to accomplish suited your higher good, or were you trying to deny your own nature?